Women are constantly being fed messages about how to appropriately navigate relationships, and they’re coming at us from all sides. Oprah does it, our parents do it, feminists do it, everybody does it. If it’s not ‘you need to do (blank) to get a man with that,’ it’s ‘you need to find a career before you even think about getting a man with that,’ and then it’s ‘you can’t go too far down the career path or you’ll be too old to ever get a man with that,’ and then it’s ‘you need to be a strong, confident, Sex-and-the-City-watching, cosmopolitan-swilling woman who is never ever freaked out about whether she’s getting too old to get a man with that,’ and then it’s ‘you need to get a man with that right now, if you ever want to get a child with that.’ It’s a whole bunch of misguided advice that’s just being dumped on all of us, as if women are alike. We’re not.